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Jul. 28th, 2017 03:06 pm
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[personal profile] hollymath
When I mentioned not wanting to go out (again) in the torrential downpour, in a Facebook post about making plans for this evening, someone left a chirpy comment about how I chose to live in Manchester and it rains a lot in the UK, especially Manchester....

...I got so mad I wrote a comment about how picking the one where I could have healthcare didn't seem like much of a choice. But they probably won't have seen it because I deleted the whole post, without even really realizing that's what I was doing, immediately after.

Yeah, I guess I have been a bit touchy lately, particularly on the subject of not feeling like I have much control over my life.

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Date: 2017-07-28 02:24 pm (UTC)
lilysea: Oracle (Oracle: wheelchair fighting)
From: [personal profile] lilysea
Oh, for fuck's sake! :( :( :( :( :(

I get angry when people say "Well, you *chose* to live in Perth, which has summer temperatures between 30C (86F) and 43C (109.4F)! So don't complain about the hot weather making you sick/ill/exhausted!"

Well, I couldn't move to the US or the UK because I'm disabled and immigration wouldn't have me, plus I need affordable healthcare,

and the parts of Australia that have cooler summers (Melbourne, Tasmania) ALSO have colder winters, which causes me PAIN PAIN PAIN.

A choice between

a) crippling pain in winter,

and

b) being exhausted and sick from heat in summer,

isn't really much of a choice!

Sydney has cooler summer temps, but it's so humid that you can't breathe, and you get heat exhaustion because sweat can't evaporate; it's full of air pollution, and the rent is $$$$. Oh, and the public transport is less wheelchair-accessible.

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Date: 2017-07-28 02:32 pm (UTC)
davidgillon: A pair of crutches, hanging from coat hooks, reflected in a mirror (Default)
From: [personal profile] davidgillon
Seems to me you 'chose' to live where your husband lives, having been pinned to one particular country by healthcare needs.

Other choices comes secondary to surviving, and being in the same location as found-family.

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Date: 2017-07-28 02:40 pm (UTC)
davidgillon: A pair of crutches, hanging from coat hooks, reflected in a mirror (Default)
From: [personal profile] davidgillon
Yeah, you could be anywhere in the country and facing a torrential downpour. It's not a reasonable comment given the UK context.

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Date: 2017-07-28 02:44 pm (UTC)
lilysea: Serious (Default)
From: [personal profile] lilysea
For that matter, even in Western Australia, which probably has less rain per year than the UK, I've been trapped at home for much of the past two weeks by torrential downpours!

(Can't get the powerchair motor coupling wet or it'll stop working permanently.)

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Date: 2017-07-28 03:09 pm (UTC)
davidgillon: A pair of crutches, hanging from coat hooks, reflected in a mirror (Default)
From: [personal profile] davidgillon
As Sod's Law would have it, I now need to go out, and it's raining!

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Date: 2017-07-29 12:27 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] theandrewhickey
Not only all those things, but *also*, yesterday's weather was a) very atypical for Manchester in terms of type of rain, and b) over much of the North (I was in Liverpool and it was the same there, and West Yorkshire friends were tweeting about the rainstorm).

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Date: 2017-07-29 01:44 pm (UTC)
davidgillon: A pair of crutches, hanging from coat hooks, reflected in a mirror (Default)
From: [personal profile] davidgillon
What's typical weatherwise is changing. To quote my dad, and he was responsible for handling flooding issues in Weardale so paid attention to that kind of thing, by the time he retired ('87) "we were getting hundred year storms once a decade".

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Date: 2017-07-29 01:49 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] theandrewhickey
Oh, absolutely. The last few summers have been unlike anything I've ever experienced. But yesterday's weather was neither stereotypical Manchester weather nor the kind of "atypical" weather we've actually had quite a lot. .

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Date: 2017-07-29 01:57 pm (UTC)
davidgillon: A pair of crutches, hanging from coat hooks, reflected in a mirror (Default)
From: [personal profile] davidgillon
Ah, atypically atypical ;)

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Date: 2017-07-28 02:48 pm (UTC)
lilysea: Serious (Default)
From: [personal profile] lilysea
It also indicates a lack of empathy / compassion / imagination on the part of the person who made that comment.

Brené Brown on Empathy comes to mind.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw&t=2s

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Date: 2017-07-30 09:18 am (UTC)
norfolkian: Holtzmann from Ghostbusters licking a gun (Default)
From: [personal profile] norfolkian
But everyone complains about the weather! It's what we do! I think it was an insensitive comment by the person who made it.

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